As I was scrolling through Facebook I came across a post a friend of mine wrote about being blessed. When I first read it, I understood where she was coming from however, I never noticed it. A few weeks have passed and now I have a totally different reaction.
I am sure you have seen #blessed on Facebook or Instagram. Typically this is used in reference to a picture of a baby or kids. The poster is #blessed because they have this precious bundle of joy in their life to call their own. I never thought anything about it until my friend posted about this topic. Does this mean I am not blessed because I am childless? Are people only #blessed if they have a biological child? How does this all work? I never thought I wasn’t #blessed until I started noticing the trend on people posting about being #blessed. Is it really being #blessed or is it more luck? I wouldn’t think they are implying the only way to be #blessed is having a child or are they? Would God really only #bless certain people and not others? Is your head spinning yet? I know mine is.
I am more on the luck side than the #blessed side. I think we all know about the birds and the bees and how babies are conceived. Unfortunately or shall I say fortunately you don’t conceive every time you and your significant other hit the sheets. Let’s face it, it’s a small window every month that the timing is right to potentially create this precious miracle. Those of us who are on the infertility side know all about timing, body temp, laying positions, herbs, oils, and more. Most likely we know more than you most likely would ever care to know. Until I was in this category I knew about infertility but I really didn’t know about it. It is a broad category that has many different avenues. I have learned so much from other women who have experienced infertility. Every story has been unique and different from mine.
I would consider our situation bad luck. Since our infertility is undiagnosed it may have been something I took or exposed myself to in the past. If you haven’t read my post on The More You Know, make sure you check it out. I open up more on this subject. I consider those who are able to conceive without ever “trying” to have good luck. There is nothing wrong with having good luck. Believe me, I wish I had it in this situation. They are lucky everything came together to create a miracle to love and cherish. It’s hard for me to say they are #blessed as that would be saying I am not.
#Blessed is so hard to swallow. Facebook and Instragam has so many pros and cons. It’s easy to keep others up to date on what you are up to on a day to day basis. It is also so easy to share your thoughts and opinions good or bad. I am sure some of you will disagree with me and will continue to feel #blessed that you have a miracle(s). All I ask, next time you use #blessed think about what you are implying.
Infertility is a lonely and depressing journey. Some woman have a hard time waking up the next day and end up taking their own life. While some marriages end up coming to an end as they had a different vision on what life together would be like. I am thankful my husband and I have supported each other through this long journey. I will continue to speak about infertility as if one person can relate to my story and provides some sort of comfort or validation then opening up and sharing my journey was worth it.